Getting Married!
In 2½ weeks I am officially tying the knot with my fiance.
Holy cow! That's crazy.
At this point, I'm quite used to the fact that I'll be spending the rest of my life with her. That's not the crazy part at all. The crazy part is what it means in the context of the rest of my life. I mean, I'll be a husband and have a wife.
Does this mean I'm officially an adult now? I think a lot of people would probably say yes. I still don't feel like an adult, though. Maybe that's why the thought of me getting married is just so crazy.
Unfortunately though, I think by even my own definition of adulthood I'm starting to get there. Bills? Check (I need to pay for Keri's PT school!). Stability? Check (Been living with Keri in Boulder for the last year and a half and just signed an 11 month lease and hope to stay there for 36 months).
I guess this whole marriage thing means that there is the possibility that just maybe I might have to start thinking of myself as an adult. Perhaps I'll just use the term 'young adult'. No sense in rushing into anything. ☺
I suppose the obvious question is, am I nervous? And the answer is an easy no. I'm convinced that there are no skeletons in my fiance's closet. I know that she is a good, wonderful and amazing person. So while I obviously cannot guaruntee that we'll always be on the same page, I feel like I am pretty darn sure that she won't turn out to be an axe murderer. I am also pretty sure that she is always going to care about me and do her best to treat me with kindness and respect. Mostly, because I've never seen her not treat someone that way. Plus, she knows about all of _my_ skeletons already, so the time for her to run was a while ago.
Though, I suppose that is only half the question. The flip side is how do I know I'm going to always care about her? And once again, I can't see into the future, but all the things I said about her before still apply and are even more true now.
I guess really this is just a leap of faith. I'm trusting her in the same way that she is trusting me. In the same way that we have been trusting each other for the last few years. She hasn't let me down yet, and that's all the evidence I have to go on.
I don't really know how a marriage disintegrates and ends in divorice. I know it happens. But I just don't think it will happen to us. I'm sure everyone getting married thinks that though, and I can't tell you why it won't happen to Keri and I. But it just won't. Though, I have to believe that it won't, otherwise what the hell am I doing?
Anyway, enough talk about divorice, I'm getting married in 2½ weeks!
[Though, one more quick note about feeling nervous. I'm not feeling nervous now, but briefly during Twilight Sage: Eclipse I started feeling it a little. I just felt like I could relate to what Bella was going through. These decisions have far reaching effects! Though I don't have it as bad as Bella did, I'm not making a choice for all eternity—just the next 70-90 years.]
So, this Saturday we will have the first of two parties to celebrate this union. Now, the parties I am pretty nervous about. For a few reasons. A) I like to be the center of attention, but only casually. For example, if a some people are hanging out, I love to crack jokes and do my antics. However, if everyone is specifically there for _me_ I tend to feel like I have to make it worth there while, and I end up almost performing. It is exhausting, and I never feel like I properly make it worth people's while. B) There are going to be a lot of people there that I care about and want to spend time with. 150 and counting at the Oregon party. In a 4-5 hour party there is no way for me to properly spend time with all of them. So, I'm nervous about trying to have meaningful (not just for them but for me) interactions with person after person after person. I guess I'll just do the best I can. Let's hope they like the slideshow.
And August 6th is the day of the actual marriage. The original plan was for it to just be Keri and me on a hiking trip some where. But some time in the last few months we decided we wanted our families to be there. So, my mom, my dad, Keri's mom, Keri's dad, and Keri's brother will all be joining us at Delicate Arch on August 6th while the Misses and I very informally exchange some vows and our rings (we'll have to take them off first I guess!).
All in all I'm pretty darn ecstatic about the whole thing. I am very, very excited about all the TSPers making treks for the parties. I'm looking at Boatswain, Pops, Robert, flychipmunk and especially the Peon (not that I am picking favorites, but he has to go through customs! (also note that the list is ordered from West to East.)).
I especially can't wait for my fiance to get her butt out to Oregon. She's been slaving away in Aurora in the name of education for the last two weeks. But enough is enough! I need her already!
Three cheers for love!
22 July 2010 01:32am UTC • 387 views • 11 comments
Tagged with keri, marriage, weddings, party
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11 comments
The Anonymous Poppy
22 July 2010 02:16am UTC
Um, I think you'll find that I live further West than the Boatswain. By, like, at least 5 feet.
Also, I am so excited for your impending nuptials!
Dread Pirate Benjamin
22 July 2010 05:15am UTC
You know Pops, that possibility did occur to me. I thought about calling you and asking, and in hindsight I really wish I had. It would have been so random! In the end I listed you and Omer alphabetically
Seamonster Mom
22 July 2010 06:41am UTC
Hip Hip Hooray!!!!!!
Boatswain The Fool
22 July 2010 09:04am UTC
Yeah, that really is unfortunate. Poppy and I try to live reverse-alphabetically.
Boatswain The Fool
22 July 2010 09:05am UTC
Also, I concur with Seamonster Mom!
Peon Peetie
22 July 2010 03:11pm UTC
First of all, I cannot freaking wait. It's going to be great. And I may never refeer to either of you by name anymore, but rather your spouse's spouse. (eg "Benji" no more, but "Keri's husband")
Second of all, I suppose I am the farthest east, if you consider time zones important. (I'm fourteen hours ahead of Colorado.) but I'm also really not all that far west. Hmm. So maybe you should have a _third_ party in China!
Kate the Quiet
29 July 2010 03:24pm UTC
Congratulations, Benji and Keri! I know you'll have a lifetime of happiness together. Wish I could be there for your party, but you'll be in my thoughts! Congratulations again and again and again!
The Anonymous Poppy
30 July 2010 01:58am UTC
Kate, you're not coming! I had been hoping to see you. :(
We'll miss you there!
Robert
31 July 2010 04:16am UTC
It's been pretty exhausting here trying to get out of Topeka in time to make it. Moving at the end of July is kind of awful.
Dread Pirate Benjamin
4 August 2010 03:41pm UTC
Thanks Kate! We were sad to miss you! Maybe the next time Keri and I get married we'll choose a venue that is closer! :)
Sorry Robert! But we were very happy to see you there! Maybe the next time Keri and I get married we'll choose January so it isn't so hot for you! :)
Robert
6 August 2010 02:07am UTC
It was worth it, the party was a lot of fun! Thanks for the invitation!